What I Learned from Therapy

To the outside world, it may seem paradoxical to have a therapist seek therapy, but the truth is even the best therapists have a therapist. I highly recommend it! It definitely made me a better therapist, and helped me gather myself.

When I wrote Unmasked: The Journey and Its Lessons, it was a release for me, but an introduction to the world. It was healing in writing. I grew up with 3 brothers. There wasn't a lot of crying and expressing emotions. My mom worked at Ben Taub as a Buyer, and later, Pharmacy Tech; played piano for churches, and taught music, so I didn't share much because she was tired. My dad was a truck driver, but he was a great listener, but he always made me figure things out when I really needed advice.  I really didn't get any best friends until 7th grade (and we are still friends to this day). I say this to say, writing was my release, my friend...my therapist before I knew I needed one.

When I finally decided to do therapy, here is what I learned about myself:

  1. The hardest thing to do is to love someone else when you don't know who you are. Take time to figure that out.

  2. If you don't take the time to learn who you are, someone will teach you to be who they want you to be for their benefit.

  3. There is no "normal".  That ish is all subjective.

  4. Heartbreak is its own kind of mourning. Never give the same person the same opportunity to mistreat you. Ghosting is for cowards.

  5. Vulnerability is for the brave.

  6. Some things you never get over, you just find a way through.

  7. Talk to yourself. Rationalize ish. Answer back. 👀👀👀

  8. Storms don't last forever. I promise.

  9. Time is one of your best resources. Use it to your benefit.

  10. You don't need to know everything. It will come in due time. God will provide. The Universe will align.